cheating forgiveness

Is Cheating Becoming Common? Why Monogamous Relationships Are Failing

16 March 2017 Dave

Cheating And Dating

Do people scold their friends for cheating?

I don't know about you, but I was raised under the premise that cheating is bad. However, as the younger generation is growing older, I can't help but feel as though they do not share the same morals. More and more, I am hearing friends discuss cheating together as though it is the most common thing in the world. Some men even going as far as calling women their ‘side chicks' and referring to always having backup sexual partners. At some point in my life, I had a close friend who was always cheating on her partners, and I couldn't help but be disgusted by it. Instead of listening to her cheating escapades, I would try to scold her for her cheating ways, but this would infuriate her. It would seem that cheating is becoming glorified as times goes on, and that serious relationships are becoming a rarity.

Should cheating be expected and forgiveness required?

Forgiving a cheater for having hurt you is not an easy thing to do, but for some reason cheaters are more surprised about not getting a second chance than they are of cheating. In a way, it is almost like cheating is now expected and forgiveness required, which just strikes me as weird. Now that social media and online dating websites have been created to facilitate our search of love and dating, many people are using these means as ways to find cheating partners. When your partner cheats on you and is surprised when you don't forgive them, you know something is wrong. If you agreed to being in a monogamous relationship and were cheated on, you have every right to not want to get back with a cheater.

Dating someone new and finding out that they cheated on their ex

A couple years ago, in Virginia Beach, I met a really good looking person who just happened to be single. We immediately clicked and entered the beginning steps of a relationship. One night, we were talking about our past relationships and I found out that most of their relationships ended around the one year mark. So I asked them why their last relationship had ended, and they said it was because of cheating. At first I felt bad for them, but then I realised that they didn't specify if they had been cheated on or done the cheating. When I asked and I found out that they had cheated on their partner, I immediately told them that I could not date a cheater and stopped seeing them.

Is cheating discussed between friends?

Being friends with a cheater can be very hard, especially if you aren't alright with cheating yourself. Since every friendship is different, it is hard to know if cheating is discussed between friends, but for the most part I believe it is. Being friends with a cheater might make you start thinking that cheating is tolerable, so if your friends are starting to jeopardize your morals, try distancing yourself or telling them you don't want to hear about their cheating escapades.

Is cheating and dating the new PB&J ?

Dating used to be something that people took seriously, but nowadays it seems that cheating and dating go better together than peanut butter and jelly. Since the rise of online dating, many singles are becoming aware that they have way too many options, and because of this they're choosing to sleep around on their partners.

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Adultery Advice

Overcoming Adultery: How To Forgive A Cheater

20 February 2017 Dave

Overcoming Adultery

Cheating and the road to forgiveness

The only reason that I found out that my partner was cheating was because they told me about it. If they had never told me that they had committed adultery, I would still be naive in my marriage. When my partner told me that they needed to talk, I thought that we had gotten pregnant and I was so excited, but unfortunately that wasn't the case. Cheating and the road to forgiveness is not an easy path to drive on, but when you love someone and cannot picture your life without them, sometimes you need to take a chance and forgive them. When my partner told me about the cheating, I didn't know if forgiveness was going to be an option. But after talking to them and hearing their side of the story, I was just happy that they had come clean about it and not neglected to tell me about it. Now that I look back, I should have been able to pick up on some telltale signs of cheating, but I guess I was too trusting.

How forgiving a cheater is essential to your recovery

Overcoming adultery is definitely possible, but the first step you need to take is forgiving the cheater in question. At first, I was so angry with my partner that I refused to forgive them for what they had done. I told them that I could move past this but that I couldn't forgive them. After a while I began to notice that holding onto anger was stopping my partner and I from evolving as a couple. When I realised this, I immediately forgave my cheating partner and told them that I was devoted to getting things back to how they once were.

Is there room for forgiveness after adultery?

There is always room for forgiveness in every single aspect of life, but it just takes a very strong person to be able to forgive someone who hurt them dearly. Finding out that your lover has committed adultery will always come as a shock to the unsuspecting, but knowing that forgiveness is an option can also be reassuring.

How to forgive without forgetting

Knowing how to forgive someone for cheating is not something that we are taught in school, so it can be very hard to figure it all out on your own. The first thing you should know when forgiving a partner is to never forget what happened. If you start forgetting about how you felt when you found out about your partner's infidelity, you'll forget to be on your guard. Since a cheater can potentially cheat again, you need to remember that they have cheating in their blood.

Adultery is more common than you would think

After my partner came clean about cheating with their co-worker, I told them that I would only get back with them if they changed job, and to my surprise they agreed. My partner ended up getting a job in Wellington and so we relocated our life there and decided to start fresh. To help me cope with the cheating and the move, I began to read books about adultery and could not believe how common it was. In a twisted way, it made me feel better to know that I was not alone and that others had gone through what I had and survived.

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